Miriam Hardy lived a life that touched so many others. As a mother, grandmother, friend,
teacher, caseworker, and tireless volunteer in church and community, her influence has been
incalculable. She has added in countless ways to the goodness of the world. Mimi Hardy died on
March 18, 2021 at Shard Villa in Salisbury, Vermont.
Mimi was born Miriam Ann Smith on June 28, 1936 in Mineola, NY, the youngest child of Robert
L. Smith, Sr. and Miriam (Fradenburgh) Smith and little sister to brothers Bob and Bill. She grew
up in the shadow of World War II, in which both her brothers served, with loving family
members on Long Island and in Brooklyn. Her own mother died when she was a child, so she
spent a lot of time with her grandmother who inspired her interest in nature and music, digging
clams on the beach or going to the Metropolitan Opera. She attended Mary A. Burnham School
in Northampton, MA, and spent summers, first as a camper and later as a counselor, at Camp
DeWolfe on Long Island Sound where she was given the nickname "Mimi Nature" for her love of
animals and the natural world.
Mimi attended Cornell University, in beautiful Ithaca, New York. Her favorite classes included
Russian literature with Vladamir Nabokov and environmental education with Dick Fischer, which
cultivated a lifelong love of books and birds and admiration for the Cornell Laboratory of
Ornithology. She graduated in 1958 from the Martha Van Rensselaer School of Home Economics
with a degree in child development and teaching. After graduation, she taught elementary
school in Cato-Meridian, NY, where she met her future husband, Robert B. Hardy, Jr. She and
Bob were married in Sage Chapel on the Cornell campus on June 29, 1963.
Mimi and Bob raised four children, first in Trumansburg and later in Dryden, NY, small towns on
either side of Cayuga Lake. Mimi was a loving and adventurous mother who encouraged her
childrens independence and supported their broad interests and activities, including creative
writing, music, wrestling, raising farm animals, 4-H, horseback riding, basketball, academics, and
social activism. In Trumansburg, Mimi was a deacon in the Presbyterian Church and
instrumental in founding the first community food pantry. Later she was a member of the
Lansing Methodist Church and president of the Ithaca Lions Club and active in Lions activities
throughout New York State. To her children, Mimi seemed to know everyone and be involved
with everything in town. She had many dear friends far and wide, and always took the time to
stay in touch and lend a hand if needed. In difficult times, Mimi was the force that held her
family together. She was strong and nurturing, gregarious and kind, and frequently hilarious.
Mimi taught for many years in schools around Tompkins County, NY, and had especially fond
memories of her years as a kindergarten teacher at the Belle Sherman Elementary School in
Ithaca. Her classrooms were filled with creativity and joy, and various pets, plants, and science
experiments adding to the experience of her students. She paused from teaching for several
years to devote herself to her growing family, but returned to the profession after working
toward a master's degree at SUNY Geneseo. She taught elementary
English-as-a-second-language and middle school special education before pivoting her career to
social services. She worked as a caseworker with the Economic Opportunity Corporation in
Ithaca, driving her orange VW bus all over rural Tompkins County to visit and care for isolated
clients and families. She finished her career as the program coordinator for the Tompkins
County Senior Citizens Council where she was an expert insurance counselor, events organizer,
and motivator for seniors. From kindergarteners to senior citizens, Mimis paid and volunteer
work brought joy, support, and education to so many people in the broader Ithaca area for five
decades.
After retiring to Middlebury, Vermont, to live near her daughter Ruth and family, Mimi
continued her devotion to family, community, and faith. She volunteered regularly at her
grandchildrens school, the Mary Hogan Elementary School, where she shared with students her
love of birds, giraffes, nature, and reading. She was active in the Middlebury United Methodist
Church, leading the Womens Spirituality Group and assisting with the congregations epic
rummage and bake sales. Mimi was an avid theater and opera fan, and devoted patron of the
Town Hall Theater and Opera Company of Middlebury. Mimi was also a zealous Syracuse Orange
basketball fan and one of her favorite events of the year was the March Madness college
basketball tournament. Over the past few years, Mimi enjoyed attending Project Independence
at Elderly Services, where she was an enthusiastic participant in their art and writing projects.
Mimi was a poet and a prolific journalist, filling notebooks with poems and reflections up until
the end of her life.
Mimi shared her interests generously and passed on her talents and passions to her children
and grandchildren. To her oldest son, a poet, she passed along her love of classical music and
the written word. To her younger son, a pastor, she passed along her strong and sustaining
religious faith. To her daughters, a state senator and a social worker, she passed along her
strong sense of social justice and belief in the strength and power of women. To all of her
children, she passed along a love of nature and a deep concern for others. That her
grandchildren are drawn to music, writing, teaching, activism, science, and environmentalism is
proof of the exponential and lasting quality of her influence.
Mimi was preceded in death by her husband Bob and her brothers Willard F. Smith and Robert
L. Smith, Jr. She is survived by her sons Robert Hardy and wife Clara of Northfield, MN, and
Reverend William James Hardy and wife Rene of Lockport, NY; her daughters Senator Ruth
Hardy and husband Jason Mittell of Middlebury, VT, and Clara Hardy of North Providence, RI; by
her dear grandchildren Will and Peter Hardy, Annina and Oliver Zheng-Hardy, and Greta, Anya,
and Walter Hardy-Mittell; her beloved nieces Martha Regelman, Georgia Smith, Pat LaFontaine,
and Bridget Smith, and nephews David Smith and Donald Brightsmith; and hundreds of friends
in New York, Vermont, and around the country and world.
Mimi was generous in spirit, time, and resources. Her family hopes youll honor her by
volunteering your time at a school or senior center; planting a tree or feeding the birds; reading
a book from your local bookstore or library; or donating to an organization in your community
whose mission Mimi would have supported. In Vermont, her family suggests the Town Hall
Theater or Project Independence at Elderly Services. Mimis family plans an in-person
celebration of her life later this year. Thank you.
Arrangements are under the direction of the Sanderson-Ducharme Funeral Home.
On condolences at www.sandersonfuneralservice.com
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